Humbleness

Now at six weeks of pregnancy the last thing you need is stress. Mommies please stay stress free or at least try to. One way I relieved my stress was to humble myself in all situations. If there's an enemy such as my baby father( sperm donor) I should say, is to simply just STAY AWAY! To avoid confrontation and drama. The more you try the better you will get. One stressful day my donor called me, with all the denial he had the nerve to let his new girlfriend call ME. She had the audacity to question me. Excuse me, Miss Zambrella but I didn't sleep with you, this is not your concern talk to your Man please. I hung up the phone and PEACE BE STILL. H-U-M-B-L-E-N-E-S-S. I am still learning to be humble, but its working.

Lesson 2 Humbleness- although my donor and I don't have a relationship we still have a Son and we need to talk. I can't just deny him his paternal rigths. I had to mature. I learned to be humble and just take things one day at a time. I had to realize that I can't make him do anything. Although I want to. I don't have to be childish and argue with him or her, Nobody for that matter. All I have to do is ME.......and what's best for MySon in the end.

The next step is forgiveness. In order to forgive you have to let it go. If you don't your just holding on to hurt and the more you hold it, the more it will hurt. Just Let it go..ya know.I forgive the donor. I won't let him have control over me. If I don't let it go I will be damaging myself.

Now the next step is ........take a guess...................Move on. I refuse to be stuck in a situation that I can't get myself. It took me a while to realize that it was over. One part was relieved another part was hurting badly. I found ways to forget about what was or used to be, and got into what is. I continued going to doctor's appointments without him, Planning names without him, Ultrasound appointments, Baby shopping, and etc. all without him. The hardest thing to do sometime is to forgive, but the reward is so worth it. Now ,you forgave you can live again!

who am I

Who am I? I'm a college student from the urban community. I recently had my first child at the age of 27. It was a boy. He is the most beautiful and precious thing in my life at the moment. Everything I do I think about how it could affect my child. Even when i'm upset I have to think about him first. I found out Iwas preggo's on July 3, 2009. That was one of the happiest days of my life. I was overjoyed with the thought of becoming a mom. My child was planned... I had been trying for years. I called my boyfriend to tell him the good news and that's when the ball started going downhill. He denied my child! Our child! I started this blog to support single parents who are making the challenge. This blog is for moms who put their kids first no matter what. I feel i can talk about this topic because i'm living it. The old folks say there's no better teacher than experience. I feel its nothing wrong with learning from someone else experience. In short I hope to learn from other mothers out there who are making the challenging and hopefully someone can learn from me. Together US moms will encourage each other.

Lesson 1- Accept Denial
The first thing I had to do was accept the fact that my child's father was an idiot. We were together 7 years and that still didn't mean a thing, as soon as I told him the news he went into denial. I was upset, frustrated, depressed, angry, betrayed, lied, and bascially slapped in the face. To get over the hurt i first had to accept it!